Adoption Options

Not every one who seeks infertility treatment will become pregnant and deliver a child, even with today’s advanced reproductive technologies. If you have decided to end fertility treatment, you may choose to build a family through adoption.

Considering Adoption

Adoptions can be arranged through a public or private agency or independently. Independent adoption usually involves an adoption attorney or other intermediary. The majority of adoptions in California are independent adoptions. In an agency adoption, the birth mother signs a “relinquishment,” and the agency places the child for adoption. In an independent adoption, the birth mother selects the adopting family.

Education and preparation is a very important part of making a successful adoption plan. In forming an adoption plan, consider your reasons for adoption and the kind of child you want to adopt (race, age, and special needs). Consider the type of adoption you want to pursue (public or private agency, independent or international) and the degree of openness you want in the adoption. Read all the information you can about adoption agencies, attorneys, support groups and laws. Attend seminars and pre-adopt meetings. Talk to those who have already adopted. Research not only adoption practices and services but the pre and post adoption psychological issues as well. Consulting an experienced infertility/adoption counselor can facilitate making the decision to adopt.

Before choosing an adoption professional, locate and interview several reputable providers. Below is a list of some Bay Area adoption services providers.

Adoption Providers

The listing of names does not imply the recommendation of any particular adoption provider.

Adoption Connection
1710 Scott Street
San Francisco, CA 94115
415-359-2494
http://www.adoptionconnection.org
Helps adoptive parents connect with birthparents
Adopt International
(international and domestic adoption)
121 Springdale Way
Redwood City, CA 94062
650-369-7300
Bay Area Adoption Services
465 Fairchild Drive #215
Mountain View, CA 94043
650-964-3800
http://www.baas.org
Independent Adoption Center
391 Taylor Blvd
Pleasant Hill, CA
925-827-2229
http://www.adoptionhelp.org
Adoption Law Offices of Adams & Romer
1191 Church Street
San Francisco, CA 94114
415-643-4523
They help facilitate independent adoption
Partners for Adoption – International,
Domestic, and Surrogacy
925-946-9658
www.partnersforadoption.org
Bethany Christian Services
Modesto, CA
800-BETHANY
www.bethany.org
PACT An Adoption Alliance
4179 Piedmont Ave. #330
Oakland, CA 94611
510-243-9460
www.pactadopt.org
Facilitates independent adoption of children or color
Ellen Roseman
Cooperative Adoption Counseling
http://adoption-facilitator.org
415-453-0902
Holt International Children’s Services
888-355-HOLT
http://www.holtinternational.org
Facilitates international adoptions
Dean Sweet
Sweet Beginnings Adoption
http://www.adoptionsweetbeginnings.com

 

Resources

Books

Below are some books and resources that may be helpful in learning more about adoption.

Adopting: Sound choices Strong Families.

Patricia Irwin Johnston. Perspectives Press. Written to help prospective adoptive parents make smarter, more thoughtful decisions about adopting a child.

I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race-Conscious World.

Marguerite A Wright. Tapestry Books. www.tapestrybooks.com

Are those kids yours? American Families with children adopted from other countries.

By Cheri Register. Free Press. 1990. A personal report about the experience of international adoptive families.

Complete Book of International Adoption: a step by step guide.

Dawn Davenport. www.tapestrybooks.com

Web Resources

Adoptive Families of America
www.adoptivefamilies.com

Adopting.com, Internet Adoption Resources
www.adopting.com

The Adoption Foundation
www.adoption.com

Adoption.org
www.adoption.org

Adopting.org
www.adopting.org

An Online Adoption Resource for Adoptive Parents
www.adoptachild.org